Lonely.

ilovetoblowthingsup · #1 (**permalink**) 01-19-2008, 02:26 PM

Okay, I dont really know whether this is the right place to put it but. . . i'll just post it here anyway. Tell me where if you know

Here's how it goes. I'm in a pretty low-point of my life, feeling lonely and left behind. It feels as if im a piece of walking glass. People don't acknowledge you or even say "hello" or "bye". What should i do? There's no one really to talk to or confide in because i dont have friends

i have the speed · #2 (**permalink**) 01-22-2008, 09:19 PM

Do you have a job? One of my friends was diagnosed with mark depression. i don't know the specifics of what that means, but i told him to get off his ass and get a job, and that helped him immensly from what i've seen. everyones situation is different, but sometimes just doing something/anything will help. Join a community service group. if you're into the whole religion thing get into a church group. you get the idea.

anyways, hope this helps. gl.

Vallen · #3 (**permalink**) 01-22-2008, 09:48 PM

DON'T GOTO THE CHURCH
no but really i didn't have any friends in 3-6 grade i and really didn't care.
indulge your self with learning its one of the best ways to forget everything.
Try to find something you like programming computers or some other stuff.

The Gein Configuration · #4 (**permalink**) 01-23-2008, 04:31 AM

What do you mean don't go to church?

People have made remarkable comebacks in their lives through intervention.

Yeah try to do what i have the speed said. It might work putting you into a flowing environment.

i have the speed · #5 (**permalink**) 01-24-2008, 02:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vallen

DON'T GOTO THE CHURCH
no but really i didn't have any friends in 3-6 grade i and really didn't care.
indulge your self with learning its one of the best ways to forget everything.
Try to find something you like programming computers or some other stuff.

school is good, but depending on how old he is he might be college age, which can be tough to afford, i should know. also, learning something like programming doesn't promote human interaction so that might not be the best example.

ilovetoblowthingsup · #6 (**permalink**) 01-26-2008, 03:09 PM

Im in a school where theres only guys... im so fucked . And no i dont have a job. Morever i'm in 10 grade. I'm dying to get out of this school to get to know some chicks. Oh God. Thanks i have the speed.

headcase · #7 (**permalink**) 01-26-2008, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovetoblowthingsup

I'm dying to get out of this school to get to know some chicks.

Where's the logical progression in that sentence?

What do you do with your spare time?

S7@1T3D · #8 (**permalink**) 01-27-2008, 05:24 AM

This. Also Troll the boards and correct people on grammar and spelling.

ilovetoblowthingsup · #9 (**permalink**) 01-28-2008, 09:16 AM

Spare time. . . Hmmm. I've been playing alot of games during the holidays but school has started and spend time on the computer doing research on wikipedia ( Plato and science related stuff) . Its kinda boring since i dont really got anyone to go out with and my classmates think im a weirdo :lol:

brendon575 · #10 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 07:16 AM

ive done this back when i was in 6th grade and i was fat ugly etc.... start appearance wise fitting in. and start doing random nice things for people. they wont think youre a weirdo anymore and they will start inviting you to things im sure. and from there your social life should explode. like mine did. by the time i left in 8th grade i ran the damn school. going out of your way to do nice things for people will get you really far. :]

headcase · #11 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 05:52 PM

People trying to "be nice" is wierd. Don't do that. If anything, you'll lose respect. Rather, be pompous and abusive. Treat everyone like they're lesser than you. If you're good, they'll believe it. Be nice? Pft. Read a book on group psychology.

i have the speed · #12 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 06:48 PM

exactly, or in other words, nice guys never get the girl.

i believe however, there are ways around this.

S7@1T3D · #13 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by headcase

People trying to "be nice" is wierd. Don't do that. If anything, you'll lose respect. Rather, be pompous and abusive. Treat everyone like they're lesser than you. If you're good, they'll believe it. Be nice? Pft.

Its a really sad world out there if thats what u have to do to get respect.

headcase · #14 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 08:38 PM

I'v seen you're Bebo, and you're not one to talk about respect or loneliness.

hamster dood · #15 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 02:49 AM

In our area, being too nice can lead to being taken advantage of. I'm sure that this is true elsewhere.

Not that I'm agreeing with headcase. I don't think being abusive is going to win you any 'true' friends.

headcase · #16 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 11:36 AM

"Abusive" was probably a bit strong. I didn't mean unrestrained abuse, but certainly amoungst you're peer group. Your point about being taken advantage was along the lines of what I was suggesting.

ilovetoblowthingsup · #17 (**permalink**) 03-02-2008, 01:09 AM

Hey guys, i've gotten better. I'm over with this loneliness shit. I am the unbreakable.

S7@1T3D · #18 (**permalink**) 03-02-2008, 05:44 AM

Lol nice man.

ilovetoblowthingsup · #19 (**permalink**) 03-04-2008, 08:21 AM

Thanks . heh.

SupportAnarchy · #20 (**permalink**) 03-05-2008, 01:06 PM

what a forum can do...

sniff sniff

its amazing

ilovetoblowthingsup · #21 (**permalink**) 03-08-2008, 02:12 AM

Oh, cut that out with your drama-rama.

dumbass · #22 (**permalink**) 04-09-2008, 07:02 PM

it is proven by science that doing hard physical labor while you are depressed will help riase your spirits and make you happier and is more effective than drugs.

Paranoid Ecstasy · #23 (**permalink**) 04-09-2008, 07:19 PM

I'm sure that is true, but the chances of getting a depressed person to do hard labor is slim to none. I have been clinically depressed a few times and there would be no way I would do labor. I would Wake up go to school, stare at the walls in school all day, get home sleep until I wake for school again. Some days I would eat one or two snacks some days I would eat nothing. I was so depressed I couldn't even think about suicide.

headcase · #24 (**permalink**) 04-10-2008, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by dumbass

it is proven by science that doing hard physical labor while you are depressed will help riase your spirits and make you happier and is more effective than drugs.

Through the release of endorphin, a naturally occuring opiod drug itself.

I only ever feel bad when I'm doing nothing. If I stay at home all day I regret it at night. Especially during the summer when I have no responsibilities to get out of bed for. So I make responsibilities. Get job, take up hobbies (I prefer sport). Have some sort of schedule with your friends; don't just meet up randomly. As for hard labor, exercise works fine too (hence my reference to taking up a sport). For the record, rugby is the greatest sport in the world.

There is a distinction between feeling bad and clinical depression though. I haven't been clinically dessed so I can't help you there. Although I believe a lot of mental health professionals have problems with that distinction.